Searching for My "Other Half"

We look for another person to fill the void within us; we KNOW from experience that it feels good when we are loving and being loved. We search for that feeling, that connection, so that we can feel those feelings again like we did once. When we seek to fill our void with someone else's presence, however, the effect only lasts for a short time, and we are again left with only ourselves.

We feel incomplete, and it stands to reason that all everybody can't be wrong. On TV, they show how beautiful everything is when you are in love. It's true that you do feel this way, but the fantasy won't last. We find a person that we believe is the one and only for us, and a few months or years later, it all falls apart. Then we blame the other person for the failure of the union.

We fail to recognize that the other person was perfect for us after all. Why did this relationship fail? Because both people were looking for a mate for their ideal selves and found a perfect mate for their present selves. The reflection you see in the world around you, and in your mate, is a perfect reflection of who you are.

Where does this leave us? With a VASTLY DIFFERENT VIEW of the world and how it works! When we understand and take responsibility for our lives, knowing that the world we see is a reflection of our innermost selves, we can begin to see what we really are. Now we can begin to change ourselves... it puts us in the drivers seat for the first time in our lives! We can use this information to our advantage; we can use this mirror to see things within ourselves that we have denied or avoided until now.

As you begin to change yourself, you will find new types of people coming into your life; it may take a while for the mate to your ideal self to appear, after all, it may take a while for you to BECOME your ideal self. ;-)

How do we gain the Personal Power that will attract that ideal mate?

1. As you find yourself thinking about the relationships you have had or now have, aggressively take this new point of view: assume that what you have previously thought of as happening to you is really YOU HAPPENING TO THE WORLD.
2. Take notice of things in other people that bother you, and also notice things in other people that you appreciate deeply: This is you.
3. If you do not like what you see, look deeply within yourself and find that same quality (It IS there, I guarantee you!), acknowledge that it is there and own it.
4. Now make the decision to keep it or rid yourself of it forever!
5. Completely release any attachment you might have to the outcome of the relationship. Release yourself from judging how the relationship is going. Enjoy the incredible freedom.

When you change something within yourself, it will change in the world around you. Once you have tackled these bothersome behaviors within yourself, they will become more understandable and less bothersome in others, and eventually they will disappear completely from your world.